I’m Gay, and my Pronouns are Free/American
Since 2015 I have been outspoken about my opposition to the Supreme Court decision regarding gay marriage and it’s universal imposition of the institution across all 50 states. Some find my position confusing or contradictory, as I myself am gay and married in a state which would have almost certainly not legalized same-sex marriage on its own by now. My opposition to the SCOTUS decision isn’t based in opposition to the principle of gay marriage, but rather the strong arming of the States by the Federal court system in the process of it’s legalization. Gay marriage by summer of 2015 was gradually becoming a generally accepted idea, and most Americans were coming around to it in an organic and natural sort of way. In their own time, as they felt it appropriate, as it should be. I don’t believe it is necessary to refer to same-sex unions as a “ marriage “. In fact doing so is, I believe, a main source of the general contention surrounding the concept and a primary source of its opposition. Nevertheless, I do believe same-sex couples should be able to enjoy the same legal benefits as their straight counterparts.
My fear at the time of the SCOTUS ruling was that forcing the hands of those still considering acceptance would lead them to then take a contrary position, as most Americans are naturally averse to being dictated to by government. My fears were realized almost instantly when many people with whom I was close were suddenly standoffish and a bit resentful towards myself and other gays who they saw as responsible. After being told by the government that acceptance of gay marriage was now mandated, those who may have been opening up to the notion and taking a step or two forward now took three or four back. The federal government, in their effort to improve the situation, only made it worse for those actually involved. Such is typical. There was also a great deal of talk at the time about “slippery slopes“ related to the matter, which I initially dismissed as political theater. I have come to realize these warnings may have been rooted in an understanding of the forces at work better than my own. Those elusive slippery slopes have seven years later made themselves plain to see by everyone with a functioning eye and access to the Internet.
When gay marriage became “settled law“ nonprofits and political activists who dedicated their lives to legalizing it suddenly found themselves out of work, and the Democratic Party found itself without a carrot to dangle in the faces of gay voters and donors. All of that energy was overnight converted to political currency for the new trans, non-binary, gender fluid, they/them madness which has now consumed main stream gay culture. Trans activists are now public school teachers for children as young as four years old, talking to their students about sex, orientation, and their body parts. Men are winning women’s sports championships and Woman of the Year. Young children are being prescribed hormone blockers to aid in the transition of their gender, and some activists have even begun testing the water for the “minor attracted people“ movement. Each time a new identity or orientation is made up they simply slap another letter onto the LGBT to the point that it has now grown to more than a dozen letters, numbers, and symbols. With each of the new steps toward madness, normal gay and lesbian Americans lose a bit more of their voice, being increasingly drowned out by antagonists in outlandish outfits more concerned with scandal and attention than improving anyone’s lives.
Once again, due to this insanity, the old stigma of homosexuals as being child predators and sexual deviants is resurfacing in the main stream, and I suspect the situation will get far worse before it gets better. If things continue on the current path, and if the gay community fails to separate itself from this behavior, I fear we will all pay the price. I’m no prophet, but I believe I have a well enough understanding of how people think and react to know what lies ahead. History has told the story before. We will likely see an increase in anti-gay violence as individuals begin to see even normal members of the Gay community as a threat to their culture, way of life, and even their children. We could see gay rights as we know them in the United States rolled back or repealed as a result of society believing itself safer with Pandora in her box. Even as a gay man I cannot honestly say I would be opposed to that in some ways. A time is coming when average Gay and Lesbian Americans are going to have to cleave ourselves from forces like the Democratic Party, the Human Rights Campaign, Disney, and other organizations which line their pockets and secure their power at the cost of our communities
The trans problem has gone much too far and poses a very real threat to the normal lives of more traditionalist gays and lesbians, who are not the least bit interested, involved, or even supportive of what is being peddled by Democrats, activists, and corporations as the gay way of life. I enjoy my life as it is. I appreciate that my husband and I can go to a restaurant together virtually anywhere in the nation and not feel our lives are endangered just for being gay. We also don’t go about broadcasting it anymore than a typical straight couple would do. Besides maybe a rainbow hat or holding hands, I don’t believe most people walk by assuming we are gay. Unfortunately, the average gay or lesbian has been removed from mainstream representation and replaced by neon-haired, nose pierced, they/thems. This is indicative of the entire problem. The gay community has been made parody by the left. The gay community has been hijacked by political opportunists, mentally ill trans-activists, and child groomers, while those just trying to live our lives will be made to pay the price when the backlash finally comes.
- J. T. Bessinger
Charleston, South Carolina